Gray divorce can have some unexpected and unique challenges especially when there are adult children. While society often focuses on the impact of divorce on minor children, the influence of adult children in the divorce process is a topic that deserves attention. The influence of adult children in a couple’s divorce can have a positive and negative impact on the divorce process. Let’s look at how adult children can impact the divorce of their parents.
Positive Influences
In some cases, adult children can provide important support to their parents, especially if the spouses are older. The aging process may bring about additional challenges, such as decisions related to living arrangements and retirement. In these situations, adult children play a valuable role in helping their parents to navigate these complex choices.
Negative Influences
Sadly, adult children’s involvement is not always constructive. One challenge that arises is when a child takes sides, advocating for one parent over the other. This can stem from various motives, such as concern about inheritance or aligning with the parent who shares the child’s perspective. Such dynamics can inject unnecessary tension and complexity into the divorce process.
An Important Rule: Avoid Taking Sides
Adult children may feel compelled to choose sides. However, they should maintain communication with both parents, assuring them that they are supportive without taking sides. This approach not only preserves the relationship between parents and children, but also prevents unnecessary rifts within the family.
Confidentiality and Communication
A significant risk is turning adult children into confidants, potentially burdening them with the emotional weight of the divorce. Divorcing couples should consult with their attorney for legal questions instead of turning to their children. Communication with adult children is encouraged, but it should focus on logistical aspects such as living arrangements, grandparent visitation, and other practical considerations.
Preserving Family Relationships
A divorcing couple and their adult children should recognize that divorce doesn’t only impact the spouses but extends to the children and to their future relationships. Divorce at an older age can create a generational defining point, influencing the relationships between children and grandchildren. Proper handling of the divorce process is crucial for preserving family ties and ensuring that the impact on future generations is minimized.
Legal Considerations
It is important that the legal professionals representing the divorcing couple be aware of the ages and relationships of adult children to each spouse. This awareness helps attorneys anticipate potential external influences, whether positive or negative, and tailor their guidance accordingly. Attorneys play a crucial role in guiding their clients through the divorce process, taking into account the complexities when adult children are involved.
Divorce involving adult children is a complex experience that demands careful consideration from everyone that is involved. You should remember to rely on your legal team to guide you through the process, helping you to navigate the complexities when adult children become part of the divorce equation. By fostering open communication, avoiding partiality, and recognizing the long-term impact on family relationships, it is possible to mitigate the challenges and pave the way for a more amicable and respectful divorce process.
Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.
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Anthony Diaz is a Family Law and Collaborative Divorce attorney, mediator, speaker and coach in Orlando. Known as The Peacemaker, his practice specializes in divorce with dignity, mediation, collaboration, uncontested and out-of-court options to help families find peaceful solutions.
With over 20 years of experience, Anthony is passionate about helping his clients resolve conflict, reduce stress and move peacefully through the divorce process without going to court. He has helped thousands of families experience a more positive outcome.
As a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family and Circuit Civil Mediator, a State Qualified Arbitrator, and an esteemed member of the Leadership Academy of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, Anthony’s expertise in mediation and conflict resolution makes him uniquely qualified to help couples navigate the emotional and financial challenges of divorce.
He is an active and highly respected professional in the Florida collaborative community. Anthony serves as Co-Chair of the Florida Academy of Collaborative Professionals Outreach Committee and is a Board Member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.
Prior to opening his private practice, Anthony was a CPA and an Assistant State Attorney for the Ninth Judicial Circuit of Florida. He earned his degree at Stetson University College of Law.
Anthony is also a published author, co-authoring Faces Behind the Pages and Creating Relationships and Family with Courage and Compassion. His solo works include:
• Divorce With Dignity – 3 Powerful Steps to Heal and Move Past Your Divorce N.O.W.
• !n-joy Your Relationships! – 7 Pillars to Deepening Your Connections With Passion and Purpose
• Moving Consciously Through Conflict – 5 Meaningful Steps to Mediating Conflict With Compassion
As a coach and an international speaker, his passion, mission and purpose is to help families move on from their divorce with dignity and embrace a more peaceful future.