Anthony Diaz

As we progress into the New Year, couples who put off dealing with the end of their marriage over the holidays have come out in full force. Since there is nothing else between them and their contemplated divorce, the biggest question is HOW? With the advent of many different forms of divorce resolution other than traditional litigation through the court system, the Collaborative Process has taken the country by storm as it gains popularity in Florida.

One of the biggest and more important questions is the role of the attorney in Collaborative Divorce. How are they different than if the case was in court? Will they still advocate for my best interests? Why should I choose you to be my Collaborative attorney. With all of these issues being quite relevant in the decision of whether the Collaborative Process is the right alternative, you will find an great article attached explaining what a collaboratively trained attorney can do for their client. You will be amazed at the many benefits a Collaborative lawyer can provide during this process. It may come as a surprise to you that these are the same benefits derived from a divorce litigator at less cost, less time and less animosity than going to court.

Going through a divorce is no walk in the park but with the Collaborative process there is a reason to believe that the end of your marriage can have a good ending. Please call my office to find out more about how to divorce with dignity and understanding. If I listen long enough to you, I’d find a way to believe that the outcome of your divorce being peaceful and civil is all true.

This process works, this process is for you, this is Collaborative Divorce!
In-Joy the theme appropriate song and lyrics accompaniment!
Click here to read What Collaborative Counsel Does for the Collaborative Client by Laurie Israel, Esq.
Click here and enjoy Reason to Believe

In my years of practice, I have had many clients who begin the divorce process looking at what is not working and how they can avoid the worst possible outcome.  This mindset developed many years before and continued through their marriage.  In resolving their divorce, this way of thinking is not very useful in achieving a mutually beneficial result for all.  In working with those who may believe their cup is half full, exploring where these beliefs came from is important but ultimately empowering them to feel that they have choices in any circumstance is the key.  Knowing that choices are available during the divorce process creates a sense of strength that helps the couple understand that they are the ultimate decision makers in resolving the end of their marriage.

Choosing Collaborative Divorce is the best solution for those who not only want to decide the issues that need to be resolved but to do it civilly, peacefully, with dignity and without the anger, emotion and fear of the unknown that goes along with traditional divorce litigation ultimately decided by the Court.  Attached is a good article explaining the Collaborative Process of Divorce.  Resolving divorce collaboratively gives the couple an opportunity to move on with their life in a positive way and not having to live in never-never land again.

If you are interested in never saying never again, you are open to the world of possibilities with Collaborative Divorce. Please call my office to find out more about how to divorce with dignity and understanding with a process that makes it easy to believe in forever knowing it can be that way.

This process works, this process is for you, this is Collaborative Divorce!
In-Joy the theme appropriate song and lyrics accompaniment!

When people are contemplating or actually in the midst of a divorce, it is very common for them to feel lost. The world they once knew and was comfortable with has now been sent into a spiral with no end in sight. Both men and women experience this differently however the common denominator is the search for something certain, a sense of calmness amidst the storm crashing through the end of their marriage, a feeling of control over the outcome and the future which seems so unreachable.

I have attached a great article about an actual collaborative divorce in the Tampa Bay area of Florida. The couple’s testimonial about the process was so overwhelmingly positive, they have remained friends. This real life story accentuates the positives using the Collaborative Process as an alternative to traditional divorce litigation. The process usually takes no more than a few months instead of potentially years, the cost is a fraction of the fees incurred going to court and the benefit of a kinder, gentler divorce especially with children is priceless.

Instead of always reaching, be open to the world of possibilities with Collaborative Divorce. Please call my office to find out more about how to divorce with dignity and understanding with a process that is easy. What you see is real and will last forever, the search is over.

This process works, this process is for you, this is Collaborative Divorce!
In-Joy the theme appropriate song and lyrics accompaniment!

“The Universe is a stage on which your mind dances with your body, guided by your heart.”
As we enter into the month of Love, how is your relationship?  As we examine the quality of our intimacy, we may be asking the question “What is love”?  Is it an emotion, is it a feeling?  Or is it something greater?  Coming from a place of love, we are born with this ever expanding all powerful juggernaut inside of us.  It’s not learned nor is it developed, but part of our DNA makeup.  It’s already inside of us awaiting our experiencing it for ourselves.  When we reflect on the many gifts from singer Whitney Houston, we are reminded of how she so eloquently expressed this as the “Greatest Love of All”.

As we grew up, in many ways it became harder and harder to fully express our unconditional love.  We allowed outside circumstances to affect us inside.  Sometimes we craved for love from someone else and lost our way instead of knowing it’s always inside of us awaiting its unconditional expression.

As we define love and how it shows up in our relationships with others, it’s great to express our love for someone else.  But are we doing the same for ourselves? How do we feel if we’re not in a relationship…if we don’t get a card for Valentine’s Day?  Do you remember making and giving Valentine’s Day cards as kids?  Remember how excited you were getting one from someone else or how upset you were if you didn’t.  A great exercise in teaching self-love at a young age would be to have children send Valentine’s Day cards to themselves.  This is a way to let them experience the feeling of loving who they are exactly the way they are.  The “Greatest Love of All” talks about our children and how we must start very young “showing them all the beauty they possess inside”.
Love may be explained as an emotion, a feeling we express; but in the bigger picture, love is a state of being.  When someone talks about being in love, it’s usually describing another person.  But actually we are always in love…with ourselves, with how we live our life.  Being able to express love to someone else begins by learning to love yourself unconditionally.  When you do, it cannot be taken away.  If you are having trouble loving yourself, it doesn’t mean it’s not there…you just haven’t been able to tap into that place of unlimited unconditional love.

How can we do that?  How can we go to the place we were before or maybe never for some? Close your eyes and think of that laughing baby who is feeling total unabandoned love.  That baby in you wants to express its unconditional, unlimited love of yourself, of life, of everything and everyone.  Feel  that feeling, whatever that feels like…that’s the place to come from always in all ways.

When we realize that we are the love in our life, we begin the path on our journey to being in a loving, healthy relationship.  Loving yourself is not only the way we allow ourselves the joy of loving another – it’s a state of being that starts and ends your life and everything love in between.  That’s the place of the Greatest Love of All.

!n-Joy my friends!…Namaste

As we enter the next season of Spring and its Equinox, many changes take place.  Flowers bloom, winter weather is behind us and we anticipate warmer weather.  Another change that happens is Daylight Savings Time which takes place this week when we set our clocks one hour ahead.  This means the sun rises a little bit later in the morning but we also get another hour of daylight at the end of the day.  The exact opposite occurs in the Fall when we turn our clocks back.  Although Spring is a time for changes in our life, many of which will move us ahead, it is also a time to look back and see what we can release that doesn’t serve us.  If you are going through or have been through divorce, navigating through change can be challenging if not outright daunting.  But it can be an exhilarating time if we can take steps to purge ourselves of that which is holding is back from our magnificent self.

Many of us use springtime for cleaning, getting rid of clutter and those belongings we no longer use.  Doesn’t it feel good to toss out stuff that’s been accumulating in our space?  There is a light feeling when we have more space in our lives, isn’t there? We can also do the same for feelings, thoughts, relationships that no longer provides us joy and fulfillment.  What thoughts have you been carrying around that affirm an illusion of lack and limitation?  Now is a perfect time to replace these thoughts with prosperity and abundance.  We all have so much to be thankful for in our lives when we put our attention there.  So when these thoughts try to make their way into your consciousness, remember all the people and experiences you have in your life that make you feel blessed.

What feelings do you have other than pure joy and bliss?  Although they appear to be real, these feelings do not reflect your inner Truth and who you really are.  I invite you to visualize what that would look like.  What in your life brings you happiness?  Our truth is love, light and life and everything else is just an illusion we’ve created from the experiences we’ve had.  Our past is not fact…just experiences we’ve had along the way.

Now is also the time to detach from toxic relationships that drain us and zap us of energy to live our life more fulfilling and meaningful.  There are many ways we hold on to these types of relationships – friends, family, love.  We don’t need to know the reason why only that if these do not support us and are not joyful, they are holding us back from the rich experiences we were meant to have.  This type of releasing can be the most challenging but also the most rewarding.  By letting go of the relationships that do not support you, you are also creating the space to let of the thoughts and feelings that go along.  You are allowing this void to be filled with people, thoughts and feelings that do serve your Highest Good and provide you the foundation to live the live you desire.  Sometimes in order to spring ahead, we have to fall back and regroup.  When we release that which clutters our lives, we are now ready to embrace a new season…a new life that awaits us.  This is a perfect time to clean our emotional house especially if your divorce is or has been holding you back.  Are you ready to Spring ahead?

!n-Joy my friends…Namaste