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Divorce and Children

How to Calculate and Modify Child Support: A Practical Guide for Parents

November 14, 2025 By Ronnie Marketing

Child support, in the eyes of the public, has generated myth, speculation, and a lot of misunderstanding. Some see it as something that is guaranteed to bankrupt them, others see it as a system that does not require paying parents to pay enough, and facing divorce, many parents are genuinely worried about what their child support payment might be.

Child Support is a Formula

The first thing to remember about child support is that it is a formula. That means that there is not a lot of argument about how much ends up being paid. So, why is there all the fighting over child support? It is because the formula is based on two things that parents or ex-spouses generally fight about: How much money each parent makes and how much time each parent will have with the children.

As the saying goes, “garbage in, garbage out,” which, here, means that if a parent’s income is inaccurate, underestimated, or overinflated, so too will the child support payment be an amount that parents are dissatisfied with.

Total Support for the Children

There is no shortage of law that says how a parent’s income is counted, and what part of income is counted for the purpose of child support, but the first thing to understand is how the formula itself works.

The first question to ask, when calculating child support, is how much total do the children need to maintain their basic needs? These numbers are provided in the Florida child support guidelines.

These guidelines total the income of both parents, and from that number, determine how much the child or children will need for their support. While some deviation is possible, this total number is set in the law and can be found here. As you may imagine, the total amount of support is more or less, depending on how much the parents’ combined incomes actually are.

Determining Income

That entails a determination of what the parents’ incomes are.  In cases where parents make a consistent, steady income, that may be quite straightforward. In other cases, where parents may be self-employed, have more sporadic incomes, or where job history is inconstant or unstable, that may be more difficult—this is often where parents allege the other is “hiding money.”

Even once you agree on how much each parent makes, not all income is counted—it is net, not gross income, that is used for child support purposes, and the law allows certain deductions to see what that net income figure is. 

Each Parent’s Share

Assuming there is some agreement on how much both parents earn, and thus, how much total support the children need, the formula then calculates how much of that total support number each parent should be made to pay. 

To do that, the formula takes into account the percentage of the total combined incomes that both parents earn. For example, if the guidelines say that a child should receive $1,000 per month, and each parent has equal income, each parent’s share is 50% or $500.

From there, the formula calculates the overnights that each parent has with the child. Parents will pay child support based on the percentage of overnights that they have the child. Of course, practically, both parents do not actually pay—only one will pay: the parent who, after the calculations, makes more money or else who has the child more overnights. The formula takes into account how much the nonpaying parent should contribute, and reduces the paying parent’s payment accordingly.

This is why many timesharing battles happen in divorces. Whereas normally the parents may be agreeable, and may even want the same timesharing schedule, sometimes a parent, knowing that more time with their children reduces their child support obligation, will seek more time with the children for that reason. It is also important to note that when it comes to timesharing, and how it raises or lowers your child support obligation, it is overnights that count—not time spent during the day.

Payments for things like health insurance, medical or dental expenses, medicines, or child care costs are also calculated, and parents may receive more support or have to pay less support than they normally would if they are already paying some of these expenses.

Deviating From the Number

Once you reach a final support number, the judge can deviate from the child support, but only by 5%, and parents cannot agree to have no child support paid. In fact, any agreement for child support must be approved by the judge. While parents can, of course, agree on child support at mediation or some other collaborative process, that decision is pending the judge’s approval.

If child support sounds complex, it is because it can be. That is why it is best to see a good child support attorney to get an estimate of your support obligations, instead of trying to figure it all out on your own.

Modifying Your Support

If you have young children, you can expect to pay or receive support for many years. During that time, life and your financial picture may change. Parents do have a right to modify child support, but that requires a showing that any change in financial circumstances is significant and permanent. The changed financial situation cannot be of your own making. In other words, you cannot voluntarily resign, or quit your job, or switch to a lower-paying job, just to get your child support lowered.

Many people make the mistake of, when facing dire financial problems, simply stopping or lowering support payments. But even if your financial situation should change legitimately and honestly and permanently, you still must get a court order agreeing to modify or lower child support; you cannot just decide on your own to do it. 

Contact us for help and to get information on what you can expect in your divorce case, or with your child support obligations. 

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Filed Under: Child Custody and Support, Divorce and Children Tagged With: child custody, child support, Children, Divorce, parenting time

Divorce Mediation 101: A Step-by-Step Guide to Amicable Resolutions

July 15, 2025 By Anthony Diaz

If you have any kind of family law case, whether a divorce or a modification of a previously entered divorce, at some point, your attorney may suggest attending mediation. Mediation has a number of advantages, and can help you end your divorce case your way, on your terms. But what is mediation, and if you do go, what steps can you take to ensure that your mediation gives you the highest chance of success possible?

Understanding the Mediation Process

Think of mediation as a settlement conference with you and your spouse present, and perhaps any attorneys who represent both of you. Also present is a mediator, who is there to help both sides come to a resolution. The mediator will try to give a neutral analysis of the case to both sides and try to encourage both sides to meet in the middle in order to facilitate a resolution to the case.

Divorce Step-by-Step Guide

Everything done or said in mediation is confidential, so if the case does not settle, nothing that is said will ever be heard by anybody else once the mediation is over. If mediation is successful, the case is over, on the terms and conditions both parties agreed to at the mediation.

When Does Mediation Happen? 

Mediation can happen before any divorce, or post-divorce modification case, is even filed—if both parties know litigation is going to happen, they can voluntarily attend a mediation, with their respective attorneys, even though there is no divorce case actually filed.

Even if there is an active, pending case, the parties can, at any time, agree to go to mediation.

If one party wants to go to mediation and the other does not, that party can also ask the family court judge to order the parties to attend mediation. Because courts want parties to settle cases, most judges will agree and compel the parties to mediate—in fact, many judges will require mediation to happen, whether the parties want to or not, before the court will have a trial on whatever issues there are in the case.

Preparing for Your Mediation 

However you got there, you now have a mediation upcoming. What can you do to ensure the best possible outcome for your mediation case?

Have a plan – Working with your family law lawyer, have an idea of what your “best case scenario,” and “worst case scenario” may be. In other words, what is the most you want out of the case, and what is the very least that you would settle for? That’s not to say you can’t alter these at any time, but it will give you a framework of what you want before you even mediate. 

The end result in mediation is usually somewhere between these two extremes, but knowing what things you have “wiggle room” to compromise with and which things are non-negotiable can help you and your attorney formulate a strategy before mediation

Imagine the future – It is easy, in the midst of a heated and contested family law case, to think of the now, or of the near future. But if you come to an agreement, it is one that will last your entire lifetime. That means that you need to anticipate the future.

What will your or your children’s lives look like in 3, 8, or 15 years? What things might get easier or more difficult as time goes on? What things might you need, or be able to live without as time goes on? These are things that will influence what you can and cannot agree to settle for at mediation.

Have your documents – If you are in the midst of a contested divorce case, your attorney may already have important documents related to the parties’ incomes, assets, or time-sharing issues. But when mediation happens earlier, it may be up to you to make sure your attorney has the evidence and information he or she needs to use at mediation.

Your attorney will sit down with you and discuss what documentation you should provide to him or her, in preparation for the mediation

Keep calm – Yes, family law issues related to property, money, kids, and alimony are all very emotionally charged issues. And yes, it is totally natural to have a strong amount of emotion about these things.

But think of mediation as a business meeting. You want to strategize and keep a level head. 

You want to come out with a plan that you can live with potentially for your or your child’s entire lives, so you do not want to just end the case on just any terms—but at the same time, you need to make rational decisions on what’s worth fighting over and what is not. That often takes reasonable decision-making in the moment, separate from emotion.

Mediation’s are also sometimes springboards to the rest of your relationship with your (soon-to-be) ex-spouse. If you can keep your composure and work out solutions rationally, it may go a long way to having a working relationship with your spouse, long after the divorce is resolved.

Take what you can settle for – Remember that while it is ideal to work out every contested issue in your divorce case at your mediation, if you cannot, that is OK also. Often, spouses resolve some, but not all, of the issues in their divorce case. Whatever you work out and agree to at mediation will be that much less to fight over during the remainder of the divorce case.

So, even if there are some things that it just does not look like you will be able to agree to, you should still approach your mediation with a positive outlook, and understand that even settling some, but not all issues, is a step in the right direction. 

Think of the Extras – One good thing about mediation is that you can add whatever you want in your mediation agreement–things that a family law judge could not even order, in or after a divorce trial. 

Do you want to make sure that your kids have access to their phones when they are with the other parent? Do you want the other parent to keep financial or other information from the marriage, private or confidential from the rest of the world? Do you want the other parent to cover expenses when the kids are in college? Should alimony end if you get remarried? 

Think of all of these (sometimes non-monetary) things that would make post-divorce life better for you, and bring these ideas to the mediation table. That’s what mediation is there for. 

His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave. #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3270 Suntree Blvd. Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32920.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email An*****@************aw.com or visit www.AnthonyDiazLaw.com.

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Filed Under: Divorce, Divorce and Children Tagged With: Divorce, Mediation

Divorce: Managing the Dynamics of Your Adult Children

December 16, 2024 By Anthony Diaz

Divorce is clearly life-altering, not just for you and your soon to be ex but for the entire family—including adult children. While they may not experience the same immediate upheaval as younger children, the emotional toll on adult children is still profound. For many couples, the Collaborative Divorce process offers a unique approach that can help your soon to be restructured family to successfully manage the process and the emotions of a divorce.

Collaborative Divorce Benefits for Your Adult Children

Divorce and Adult Children

One of the greatest benefits of the collaborative divorce process is the ability to create a secure and neutral environment. Unlike litigation, where sides are taken and tensions can escalate, the collaborative divorce process eliminates external pressures that might force your adult children to choose one parent over the other. A facilitator, often a professional with mental health expertise, is part of the collaborative team and can proactively address potential issues involving your adult children.This structure ensures that any concerns about their involvement are identified and managed early in the process.

Encouraging Adult Children Involvement

Rather than excluding adult children or shunning their involvement, the collaborative approach can encourage thoughtful participation. Your adult children are not brought in as decision-makers but as contributors who can provide insight into their concerns.This inclusion reassures them that their voice is heard and that their parents’ needs are being addressed in a constructive way. Open discussions within the collaborative team can help redefine their roles in a way that fosters understanding, rather than creating further division.

A key strength of the collaborative divorce process is the out-of-court framework. Divorces that unfold in a contentious court setting can leave your adult children feeling the need to intervene or take sides to protect a vulnerable parent. By contrast, the collaborative process emphasizes teamwork and mutual respect, which can provide a sense of security for adult children. Knowing that their parents are resolving issues in a supportive environment can reduce anxiety and help them maintain healthy boundaries.

Additionally, the collaborative team works to bring your adult children “out of the shadows” by sharing appropriate information about the process. Transparency can alleviate their fears and prevent harmful assumptions from taking root. When adult children feel informed and included, they are less likely to harbor resentment or feel compelled to act as protectors, allowing family relationships to heal and evolve naturally.

Involving Your Adult Children Strengthens Long Term Harmony

Proactively addressing the dynamics of adult children in divorce will help to enable long-term family harmony. The collaborative approach not only avoids the pitfalls of exclusion but also creates opportunities to strengthen relationships and foster trust. By focusing on communication, security, and inclusivity, families can work through the complexities of divorce with compassion and resilience.

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124,
Winter Park, FL 32792
and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email An*****@************aw.com or visit www.AnthonyDiazLaw.com.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Divorce and Children Tagged With: Adult Children, Divorce

Divorce: Finding a Path to Healthier Family Dynamics

December 12, 2024 By Anthony Diaz

Divorce is often seen as a dividing line that severs all relational ties, but it doesn’t have to be that way. In fact, preserving relationships after a divorce—whether with your children, extended family, or even your ex-spouse—can create a healthier post-divorce environment for everyone. With the right mindset and approach, you can maintain relationships that allow all parties, especially children, to feel secure and valued.

Setting the Right Goals

Family Dynamics

If you have children, prioritizing their emotional well-being should be at the forefront of your goals for the divorce. Children benefit from seeing a united front and knowing that you both still care about their happiness and security. This means fostering a cooperative parenting relationship. Letting your children know that they are loved and valued and that they remain part of a family that has been restructured can greatly reduce their emotional stress.

Similarly, your ex-in-laws and extended family are also important to your children. These individuals may not have always been easy for you to get along with, but they will still play a role in your children’s lives. Maintaining a civil relationship with them can help your children to have the support system they need without the tension that family conflict can bring.

Choosing the Right Divorce Process

The way you handle your divorce will impact your ability to preserve relationships afterward. Divorce proceedings can be conducted either through traditional in-court litigation or out-of-court options like Mediation or Collaborative Divorce. In-court divorces are inherently adversarial, which often escalates conflict, fuels resentment, and may harm your ability to communicate with your ex-spouse after the divorce is over. This makes it difficult to maintain a friendly or even civil post-divorce relationship.

Out-of-court methods, on the other hand, offer a more peaceful approach. Mediation, for example, involves hiring a neutral third party to help you to reach a mutually agreeable settlement. This process keeps emotions in check, as you work together rather than against each other. Similarly, the Collaborative Divorce process involves a team approach where you and your spouse, with the advice of your attorneys and neutral divorce professionals help you to negotiate a fair outcome with the shared goal of staying out of court. By sidestepping the adversarial nature of court, out-of-court options offer a path to resolution that prioritizes harmony over hostility, helping you maintain healthy relationships post-divorce.

Preserving Friendships and Other Family Connections

Divorce doesn’t only impact the relationship with your ex-spouse; it can also strain friendships and connections with extended family. These relationships may be caught in the crossfire if they are drawn into your divorce drama. By choosing a cooperative divorce process, you can keep these friends and family members from feeling like they need to “choose sides.” When friends and extended family aren’t forced to take sides, they’re less likely to feel awkward or uncomfortable continuing relationships with both you and your ex-spouse after the divorce.

Moving Forward with a Positive Outlook

Preserving relationships after divorce requires you to shift your perspective. As one old saying goes, “It may not be easy, but it doesn’t have to be hard.” Embrace this new chapter with an understanding of what is best for everyone and especially your children. Putting aside past conflicts and focusing on cooperation can pave the way for positive relationships that foster healthy connections for years to come.

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124,
Winter Park, FL 32792
and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

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Filed Under: Divorce, Divorce and Children Tagged With: Divorce, Family Dynamics

Navigating the Journey: Insights and Support for Women Going Through Divorce

December 9, 2024 By Anthony Diaz

If you look online or perhaps in the self-help section at the local bookstore, you will find a lot of books explaining how to pick up the pieces of your life after your divorce is over. There are many positive aspects to the fresh start, the new beginnings, and the opportunities available to you after your divorce.

Women's Journey Through Divorce

But what about during your divorce? If you have a quick divorce, perhaps one that resolves collaboratively or through a quick and early mediation, this may not be an issue, given that the divorce case itself is so short.

But for longer, more contentious, and thus, drawn-out divorces, the period of going through your divorce can last much longer—perhaps years. How do you cope with and manage your life during divorce?

Plan Ahead

One of the first things that you can do, if possible, is to plan for a drawn-out divorce in advance—even if you think your case may resolve amicably and quickly.

Plan out how you will pay the bills or where you will live. According to one study in 2018, women have an almost 30% reduction in household income during and after a divorce. If you are amicable with your spouse, plan out a tentative schedule with the kids (even though this tentative schedule will not be legally binding, it may at least give you some framework and consistency once the divorce case begins).

Taking Care of Business

Are there things that your husband or wife took care of during the marriage? Many people find that they are overwhelmed at the prospect of suddenly going from sharing household chores, duties, and responsibilities to having to do all of them on their own.

In many marriages, one spouse has less information than the other when it comes to insurance policies, passwords, contact with creditors (like mortgage companies or car loan companies), or other important entities. Try to gather as much information as you can so that you are prepared to manage these things on your own while the divorce is pending—all while possibly helping raise one or more children and working.

Getting Social Help

Some people going through divorce find that they get some solace in dating again quickly, even while their divorce case is still pending. Others prefer to wait much longer. Others will not date but will find social circles to occupy their time and to divert themselves.

Nowadays, there are ample groups that can be found online and that meet in real life. Try searching for singles groups or social groups that meet in your area—even if you are not looking to date again, many of these groups engage in social activities and gatherings, and many may even have other members who are going through or who went through exactly what you are going through.

Someone to Talk to

One of the best strategies for navigating the stresses of a divorce is simply having someone to talk to. That can be a family member or a friend. They do not have to give legal advice; they just have to be a helpful and friendly ear. In fact, you do not have to speak with them about your case at all. Just having someone to vent to after a tough day at work can do a lot for your mental health during a divorce case.

Speak With Your Employer

If you work with a boss and you are comfortable doing so, consider having a talk with your boss about your divorce. This is so that your employer knows that you may need to leave every now and then to pick up the children from school, or take the children to an after-school activity, or get to a government office to obtain or renew paperwork – things that your spouse may have helped you with when you were married.

Communicating the difficulties you are facing and the time that you will need to your employer can keep the lines of communication open so that your employer does not wonder why, out of the blue, you may be out of work more than you were or showing up late more frequently than you were in the past.

Grief is Natural

Whether your divorce is amicable or not, grief is a large part of a divorce—even divorces where you may have initiated the divorce, where you were very unhappy in the marriage, or where you are truly happy to be getting away from your spouse, or where you know the divorce is the right thing to do.

Grief can come from feeling the loss of future expectations or of a life that you thought you would have but will not.

That is natural and to be expected. Do not be afraid to get professional help or even just help from friends. There is nothing wrong with, on the one hand, wanting or initiating the divorce while at the same time feeling very sad or guilty about it happening.

Using Apps to Communicate

Many people simply do not want to communicate with their ex after a divorce. But if you have minor children, communication may be a necessity for the purposes of time-sharing and other issues regarding the kids.

Speak to your attorney about, or look into, using parental communication apps if you really cannot communicate effectively with the other parent. These apps filter out hostile or unwanted communications or communications that do not relate to the children.

They also encourage both parents to be cordial to each other in that many apps will record the communications between the parties. Just having the app there can be a security blanket, as it is not the “direct texting” that many people want to avoid having with the other parent.

Get a Helpful Attorney

Remember that your attorney is not just your legal advisor in a divorce. This is someone who will be helping you deal with very emotionally charged issues.

Find an attorney who, of course, knows family law, but also someone who understands the personal side of divorce and how it affects people. The more comfortable you are speaking with your attorney, the more likely you will be to ask questions, and thus, the less stressful your divorce will be, armed with answers to those questions.

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124,
Winter Park, FL 32792
and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email An*****@************aw.com or visit www.AnthonyDiazLaw.com.

If you find this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Divorce, Divorce and Children Tagged With: Control Your Future

Divorce: 4 Tips on How to Manage the Holidays

November 11, 2024 By Anthony Diaz

If you are going through a divorce, how you are going to handle the holidays can be a challenge. One of the most important things to remember is to focus on what truly matters: the well-being of your children. Here are four tips for managing the holidays with grace and ensuring a smooth transition for your family:

Honor Old Traditions, Create New Ones

Holidays and Divorce

One of the most difficult aspects of the holidays during a divorce is the shift in traditions. As a couple, you have probably shared holiday routines that are now disrupted. It is important to recognize that while you may want to create new traditions for yourself and your children, maintaining some familiar ones could also be comforting to them. Ask your children what traditions they value and, if possible, honor those. At the same time, introduce new rituals that represent the start of a new chapter, while keeping their happiness at the forefront.

Consider Sharing the Holidays, If Appropriate

If you are going through a non-adversarial divorce, like Mediation or Collaborative Divorce, spending some of the holidays together might be an option. However, this only works if you both feel comfortable. Any lingering tension could negatively affect the atmosphere and the children. You should also assess how your children feel about sharing the holidays. Some children may enjoy the experience, while others may prefer celebrating separately with each parent, potentially enjoying the benefits of “two Christmases.”

Take Care of Yourself

In going through your divorce during the holidays, you may feel a sense of loneliness when your children spend time with the other parent. Be proactive and plan ahead. Reach out to family or friends, join holiday gatherings, or use this time to indulge in activities you love but rarely have time for. Taking care of yourself is an important part of maintaining emotional well-being during this transitional period. You should also remember that your children are happy, spending time with both parents. Knowing that your children are happy should bring some peace.

Communication is Key

Lastly, communication with your co-parent is critical. Plan the holiday schedule in advance and keep the lines of communication open, to ensure that decisions about the children are made collaboratively. This reduces stress and ensures that the holidays run smoothly, allowing your children to benefit from a peaceful environment.

Ultimately, putting your children first and maintaining a cooperative approach with your ex-partner is the key to a successful holiday season during a divorce.

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124,
Winter Park, FL 32792
and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email An*****@************aw.com or visit www.AnthonyDiazLaw.com.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

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