Divorce is clearly life-altering, not just for you and your soon to be ex but for the entire family—including adult children. While they may not experience the same immediate upheaval as younger children, the emotional toll on adult children is still profound. For many couples, the Collaborative Divorce process offers a unique approach that can help your soon to be restructured family to successfully manage the process and the emotions of a divorce.
Collaborative Divorce Benefits for Your Adult Children
One of the greatest benefits of the collaborative divorce process is the ability to create a secure and neutral environment. Unlike litigation, where sides are taken and tensions can escalate, the collaborative divorce process eliminates external pressures that might force your adult children to choose one parent over the other. A facilitator, often a professional with mental health expertise, is part of the collaborative team and can proactively address potential issues involving your adult children.This structure ensures that any concerns about their involvement are identified and managed early in the process.
Encouraging Adult Children Involvement
Rather than excluding adult children or shunning their involvement, the collaborative approach can encourage thoughtful participation. Your adult children are not brought in as decision-makers but as contributors who can provide insight into their concerns.This inclusion reassures them that their voice is heard and that their parents’ needs are being addressed in a constructive way. Open discussions within the collaborative team can help redefine their roles in a way that fosters understanding, rather than creating further division.
A key strength of the collaborative divorce process is the out-of-court framework. Divorces that unfold in a contentious court setting can leave your adult children feeling the need to intervene or take sides to protect a vulnerable parent. By contrast, the collaborative process emphasizes teamwork and mutual respect, which can provide a sense of security for adult children. Knowing that their parents are resolving issues in a supportive environment can reduce anxiety and help them maintain healthy boundaries.
Additionally, the collaborative team works to bring your adult children “out of the shadows” by sharing appropriate information about the process. Transparency can alleviate their fears and prevent harmful assumptions from taking root. When adult children feel informed and included, they are less likely to harbor resentment or feel compelled to act as protectors, allowing family relationships to heal and evolve naturally.
Involving Your Adult Children Strengthens Long Term Harmony
Proactively addressing the dynamics of adult children in divorce will help to enable long-term family harmony. The collaborative approach not only avoids the pitfalls of exclusion but also creates opportunities to strengthen relationships and foster trust. By focusing on communication, security, and inclusivity, families can work through the complexities of divorce with compassion and resilience.
Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124,
Winter Park, FL 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.
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Anthony Diaz is a Family Law and Collaborative Divorce attorney, mediator, speaker and coach in Orlando. Known as The Peacemaker, his practice specializes in divorce with dignity, mediation, collaboration, uncontested and out-of-court options to help families find peaceful solutions.
With over 20 years of experience, Anthony is passionate about helping his clients resolve conflict, reduce stress and move peacefully through the divorce process without going to court. He has helped thousands of families experience a more positive outcome.
As a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family and Circuit Civil Mediator, a State Qualified Arbitrator, and an esteemed member of the Leadership Academy of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, Anthony’s expertise in mediation and conflict resolution makes him uniquely qualified to help couples navigate the emotional and financial challenges of divorce.
He is an active and highly respected professional in the Florida collaborative community. Anthony serves as Co-Chair of the Florida Academy of Collaborative Professionals Outreach Committee and is a Board Member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.
Prior to opening his private practice, Anthony was a CPA and an Assistant State Attorney for the Ninth Judicial Circuit of Florida. He earned his degree at Stetson University College of Law.
Anthony is also a published author, co-authoring Faces Behind the Pages and Creating Relationships and Family with Courage and Compassion. His solo works include:
• Divorce With Dignity – 3 Powerful Steps to Heal and Move Past Your Divorce N.O.W.
• !n-joy Your Relationships! – 7 Pillars to Deepening Your Connections With Passion and Purpose
• Moving Consciously Through Conflict – 5 Meaningful Steps to Mediating Conflict With Compassion
As a coach and an international speaker, his passion, mission and purpose is to help families move on from their divorce with dignity and embrace a more peaceful future.