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Why Do Couples Sign Postnuptial Agreements?

February 10, 2022 By Anthony Diaz

You have probably heard of, or you are aware of, a prenuptial agreement. A prenuptial agreement is an agreement that details what will happen to certain property named in the agreement, in the event of a divorce. It may also account for things other than property, such as alimony or attorneys fees.

What About After the Marriage?

Prenuptial agreements, as the name implies, are signed before the marriage takes place. But many people are unaware that there is another type of agreement that can be entered into between married couples after the marriage, called the postnuptial agreement. Although not as well known and certainly not as common as a prenuptial agreement, a postnuptial agreement may have some use to some married couples.

What is in a Postnuptial Agreement?

A postnuptial agreement does and can include everything in a prenuptial agreement. The only real difference is the time of the signing of the agreement, as a postnuptial will be signed while the parties are actually already married.

The postnuptial agreement can discuss what property will remain that of either spouse as non-marital property, thus making that property non-divisible on divorce. It may specify that some property will be divided on divorce and state exactly how the property will be divided between the spouses.

It may detail which spouse will be liable for which debts, who will live in the marital home upon divorce, or who will pay temporary attorneys fees or expenses while the divorce is going on.

Benefits of a Postnuptial Agreement

Just like a prenuptial, a postnuptial has the benefit of minimizing fighting later on in the event of a divorce. By agreeing to certain issues beforehand, the parties are minimizing what will be fought over when and if the divorce happens. In that way, a divorce may be cheaper, or quicker, given that there are fewer issues to fight about.

Are They Valid and Binding?

But one problem with a postnuptial is that the parties are already married when the agreement is signed. This can be a problem; the law doesn’t want a husband and wife to be at odds or to be in an adversarial position to each other.

Whenever contracts are signed in any capacity, the law wants the parties to a binding contract to be at “arm’s length” from each other, meaning that they are independent, neutral, and to some extent, both looking out for themselves–something that a married couple definitely is not.

Requirements for a Binding Agreement

This means that if certain requirements are not met, the postnuptial agreement can be challenged in court and potentially invalidated.

While in many cases, oral agreements are enforceable, when it comes to postnuptial agreements, they are not—postnuptial agreements must be in writing. Additionally, simply having a husband and wife sign the agreement will be insufficient; the law requires that there be two witnesses to the signing of the agreement.

There must be a full financial disclosure between the spouses. Simply saying, “We were married, he had access to the accounts, he knows what property I had when we signed the agreement,” will not suffice. It does not matter how much each spouse actually knows about the other’s property, holdings, income, bank accounts, or finances—full disclosure must be made by each spouse to the other before the agreement is signed.

Holding something back, or being less than truthful about finances, is one way that an aggrieved spouse, upon a divorce, will try to challenge the validity of the postnuptial agreement.

Although in most cases, courts do not look at who made out better in a contract, the divorce court will, with a postnuptial agreement. That means that one side should not get everything, and the other get nothing. Effort should be made for the agreement to be somewhat balanced as to both spouses.

Why Sign or Enter Into a Postnuptial Agreement?

There are many reasons you may want to enter into a postnuptial agreement. Often, the reasons may have to do with a spouse who has done something wrong or where there is suspicion of wrongdoing or wasting of marital assets.

For example, if a spouse were to develop a gambling habit, or where a spouse may be spending excess money on drugs or alcohol, the other spouse may not want to leave the marriage—but that spouse may want to protect him or herself, knowing that if the problem continues, a divorce may be a possible option.

If a spouse suddenly incurs significant debt, that may be a reason. For example, imagine a spouse who, against the wishes of the other spouse, takes out thousands of dollars in debt to fund a business. The other spouse may be supportive—but also may not want to be saddled with that debt in the event that there is a divorce.

Sometimes, a spouse just suspects something is off. Perhaps your spouse seems to be hiding money, finding money in places you did not know existed, or buying things you did not think you could afford. Maybe there is money in joint bank accounts that seems to be disappearing faster than you can explain.

If you suspect that another spouse is exerting excess control over what should be marital money, you may want to immediately know what assets are there, what the other spouse actually owns or makes, and to make sure that when and if a divorce happens, you are not left with nothing, or having to search endlessly for the financial truth about your spouse’s finances when a divorce happens.

One situation where a postnuptial may benefit you would be to protect the inheritance of children from a separate, prior marriage. You may not want to lose property in a divorce that you are holding for your children of a previous marriage to inherit. A postnuptial can protect this property.

Could a postnuptial agreement be right for you? We can help you make that determination and help you understand what can and should be included in your postnuptial agreement.

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Prenuptial Agreements Tagged With: Postnuptial Agreements

Is it Live or is it Memorex?

May 12, 2014 By Anthony Diaz

I was reminded by a commercial many years ago (which will of course date me from the 60’s  LOL!). There was singer Ella Fitzgerald with a high pitch voice near a wine glass.  The commercial showed the glass shattering. Next was a view of a cassette tape player (hopefully I am not the only one who grew up with one!) which was playing the sound of the opera singers voice which shattered the wineglass. The message was that the glass couldn’t tell that it was a recording of the high pitched voice and neither could you while listening to it.

How many times in our life do situations come up that we question? Is this really happening in my current experience or is it a recording of my past? Sometimes it appears so real it’s hard to tell the difference. So, what can we do to differentiate what is our reality and what is just a replay from the past? What works for me is to check in on how I’m feeling. If I’m feeling good about what’s happening, this is a validation that this is my reality now. If what’s happening is not making me feel good, it’s probably a trigger from something that happened before showing up now to be healed.

If you’ve realized this to be a Memorex recording of the past, one that feels so real that it must be the truth, take a step back for a moment as there is an opportunity to resolve something incomplete. Acknowledge that this is a message from your past appearing now to be healed so it doesn’t have to keep showing up. Allow yourself to go within and experience what this recording of your past is trying to tell you. Is there something you need to learn from this to help you in a current situation? Was there no closure on something in your past that you can validate, accept for what it was and now be ready, willing and able to release it? Do you need to feel the feeling from this past situation so that you can move on?

Many people challenged in moving ahead from their divorce time and time again are confronted by message from the past. It is sometimes difficult to know the difference between their truth and something from their past that makes them question who they really are. By understanding this dynamic when questing whether something is real or a message from their past can go a long way in doing the work with themselves to get their life on track and not feel stuck from the loss of their marriage. Moving ahead is just a thought away and it depends on how you choose to live.

Our past is useful not to dwell on but to understand and celebrate as it contributed to who you are today. We constantly get reminders of our previous life experiences and get the choice on how we allow them to shape our present and future. By accepting what happened before and acknowledging their purpose if they appear again is the healing lesson we can have as we continue on this path called life. When life asks you is it live or is it Memorex, take the time to answer the question. What you will find will make a difference for the rest of your journey.

Watch the Memorex commercial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YG8K0yl4_hc
Remember, you are Perfect, You are Powerful, YOU are on Purpose…Now go and live the life you were meant to live.
!n-joy!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Self-Care Tagged With: Mental Health and Wellness

Wherever You Go, There You Are

April 18, 2014 By Anthony Diaz

How many times have we gone on vacation or somewhere away, have an amazing time only to return home wishing we were back? I don’t know about you but it has happened to me countless times. Why does this phenomenon occur in our lives and what does it mean? When we are in a different place, there’s something about being away from our environment that shifts us.  New and different stimuli catches our attention…we have a different routine…we may be away from people and things that create stress in our lives…we feel different. Our essence embraces this because it brings us happiness and joy. We are more relaxed and we attract more of what and who we are because of this shift. There is exhilaration in our being and of course, what happens? We want more of that. At some point, we return home from our trip and we feel a letdown. There is sadness and anxiety because we go back to the way our life was before we left which was not giving us the joy and happiness we felt while we were away.

Going through divorce or trying to move on afterwards can you leave feeling the same way. You decide to get away from it all hoping things would be different and while you’re away it may seem like it does. Then when we get back, we are disheartened, disillusioned and even more stressed than when we left. We had hoped a change in scenery would right our ship and upon returning it feels like it’s sinking even more.  Confucius said “No matter where you go – there you are” and it is so true. We have this belief that going somewhere else or changing our environment will cure all the ills in our life. Now there is something to be said for having a fresh start and sometimes in a different locale.  But the fact of the matter is no matter where we go, we are still who we are. Nothing changes about our essence and what our truth is.  What can change however is how we see our life. Sometimes a change in scenery gives us an opportunity to focus on our truth…what we long for. If we are not happy in our life, this is a symptom of not tapping into our Inner Truth…that place within us that knows and sees our ultimate perfection…that we are whole and complete exactly as we are. When we find ourselves in another place and take in the newness or the change of where we were, we allow our heart to open to the possibilities in our life. We focus on that which brings us joy and not on what does not. By doing so, our heart expands even more to allow more of that which is who we are. This seems to change when we leave this different location and return home.

So how can we sustain this euphoria? By tapping into the same place that was activated while we were away…our Inner Truth. Remember what brought you such bliss when you were away whatever that might be…the beauty of nature…the excitement of a new routine…the support of new friends…the realization of a new awareness. All of this is stays with you when you are home or away. When you have experienced that which fills you up is a reinforcement of what you already possess inside you. You can tap into these feelings..this awareness of yourself anytime…anyplace. Wherever you go, there you are…There is no place you are not. What is exciting about this is you can have the experiences you had while you were away at home just by shifting into that place within you that was activated by being away. No matter how you are living life right now, you can make the choice to be in that place that feels good. Just remember the times that brought you great happiness…remember how that felt. That is who you are…that is what you are all about…waiting for you to experience over and over and over again. Go ahead and try it!
!n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Self-Care Tagged With: Mental Health and Wellness

If not You, Who?…If not Now, When?

April 11, 2014 By Anthony Diaz

I had the amazing opportunity to gather with 400 of the most incredible visionaries from around the world for four days last week. To say it was the most life changing experience of my life would be a huge understatement. The lessons I learned were transformational and I came away feeling truly blessed. There was a calling that could not be ignored…a wake-up call…a call to action to live my life with more purpose and meaning although that is what I thought I was living.

Hillel the Elder, Jewish rabbi of Babylonian origin, living at Jerusalem in the time of King Herodis, is the author of the saying “If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am ‘I’? And if not now, then when?”. The inner inquiry is profound as a general question for all of to ponder. What is the purpose of life?  Who will be called to live that life with meaning? When will a life of purpose and meaning be lived?
The question “If not you, who?…if not now, when?” rang loud and clear as I connected and went deeper at this gathering. It became not only clear what my purpose was but also what was I waiting for. There was an urgency never there before that grabbed me thrusting me into action. I committed to more integrity in my life and saying no more to any beliefs or obstacles that get in the way of living and speaking my truth. It felt exhilarating to say the least as I began a more definitive and meaningful journey.
Many of my clients recovering from their experience with divorce are confronted with questions of what’s next in their life and how to live with more purpose and meaning.  It’s a scary yet freeing place to be. Although these questions may have never been asked before, being able to start fresh with a clean slate can be quite exciting. The path from divorce need not be painful or be insufferable. There are options and solutions that will help heal the pain and be the guidance to transforming your life to one of purpose and meaning. What I know for sure is you are a magnificent being perfect, whole and complete with all the answers you need. All it takes is that first step and someone to walk right alongside you.

If not You, Who?…If not Now, When?  !n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Divorce, Self-Care Tagged With: Mental Health and Wellness

Are Your Feelings Checked at the Door?

March 28, 2014 By Anthony Diaz

I’m sure all of us are familiar with the cliché about checking our ego at the door. It means before we enter a place of truth or going within to leave anything unlike who we really are behind so as not to interfere with that introspection.

What sometimes happens is that we also leave our feelings at the door as well. In going introspective, this can be vulnerable and quite scary. Part of us wants go deeper and may not understand the power of allowing our feelings to speak its truth…the voice of who we really are. In traveling down that road, its easy to be very heady about it and leave our feelings at the door.

This happens so frequently with those going through and healing from a divorce. It may not have been safe to know our feelings much less trust and feel them. Because of these experiences, going within is not natural and exploring our feelings even more challenging. This is a time to look at who you are and where you are in your life. It is an opportunity to write a new chapter in your book instead of reliving a sequel that didn’t work the first time around.

I invite you to take the next step in moving on from your divorce. All it takes is a willingness to check in on your feelings and not check them at the door. Just being willing to be willing is a huge first step. When you open the door to the next stage of your life, your feelings can come with you and show you the way to have the life you desire and the love you deserve. What you can leave at the door is a way of thinking that no longer serves you…don’t worry…there is no use for these thoughts anymore.
Now go out and live the life you were meant to live!  !n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Divorce, Self-Care Tagged With: Mental Health and Wellness

Change is in the air

March 21, 2014 By Anthony Diaz

As I sit outside overlooking the ocean in our new surroundings, I realize how change is an amazing opportunity about how we both look at and see life. Moving to a new area means getting used to new and different rituals and routines. It can be exciting and frightening as we navigate through the process.

I noticed my anxiety level rising as I felt the changes going through my body. My initial reaction was to go to the fear and it became overwhelming. When I became aware of where I was going, I took a walk on the beach and noticed there was an excavation. At first I groaned as it took away from its beauty and didn’t look so nice. I realized though the work was to bring more sand to the beach that eroded over time. So, although it didn’t look great now, it was part of a change that would ultimately benefit the beach for everyone to !njoy.

Life is very much this way when it comes to change. It is always for the good of all including ourselves if we can understand and accept that it may not always look or feel good in the beginning. I came back from my walk with a refreshed look at change knowing its ultimate result. I was given an amazing opportunity to embrace change of a new area looking for the good in its essence.

Going through and moving on from divorce is very similar when it comes to change. It can bring up many different feelings which can be challenging to deal with. Having experienced divorce personally there were many changes that were both debilitating and transformational.

I invite you to embrace these changes and accept this as part of your divorce journey. When you allow change on your journey, you take another step to “divorce your divorce” and move on to heal your pain to have the life you desire and ultimately the love you deserve.

!n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Filed Under: Self-Care Tagged With: Divorce, Mental Health and Wellness

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