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Is it Live or is it Memorex?

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I was reminded by a commercial many years ago (which will of course date me from the 60’s  LOL!). There was singer Ella Fitzgerald with a high pitch voice near a wine glass.  The commercial showed the glass shattering. Next was a view of a cassette tape player (hopefully I am not the only one who grew up with one!) which was playing the sound of the opera singers voice which shattered the wineglass. The message was that the glass couldn’t tell that it was a recording of the high pitched voice and neither could you while listening to it.

How many times in our life do situations come up that we question? Is this really happening in my current experience or is it a recording of my past? Sometimes it appears so real it’s hard to tell the difference. So, what can we do to differentiate what is our reality and what is just a replay from the past? What works for me is to check in on how I’m feeling. If I’m feeling good about what’s happening, this is a validation that this is my reality now. If what’s happening is not making me feel good, it’s probably a trigger from something that happened before showing up now to be healed.

If you’ve realized this to be a Memorex recording of the past, one that feels so real that it must be the truth, take a step back for a moment as there is an opportunity to resolve something incomplete. Acknowledge that this is a message from your past appearing now to be healed so it doesn’t have to keep showing up. Allow yourself to go within and experience what this recording of your past is trying to tell you. Is there something you need to learn from this to help you in a current situation? Was there no closure on something in your past that you can validate, accept for what it was and now be ready, willing and able to release it? Do you need to feel the feeling from this past situation so that you can move on?

Many people challenged in moving ahead from their divorce time and time again are confronted by message from the past. It is sometimes difficult to know the difference between their truth and something from their past that makes them question who they really are. By understanding this dynamic when questing whether something is real or a message from their past can go a long way in doing the work with themselves to get their life on track and not feel stuck from the loss of their marriage. Moving ahead is just a thought away and it depends on how you choose to live.

Our past is useful not to dwell on but to understand and celebrate as it contributed to who you are today. We constantly get reminders of our previous life experiences and get the choice on how we allow them to shape our present and future. By accepting what happened before and acknowledging their purpose if they appear again is the healing lesson we can have as we continue on this path called life. When life asks you is it live or is it Memorex, take the time to answer the question. What you will find will make a difference for the rest of your journey.

Watch the Memorex commercial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YG8K0yl4_hc
Remember, you are Perfect, You are Powerful, YOU are on Purpose…Now go and live the life you were meant to live.
!n-joy!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

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Wherever You Go, There You Are

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How many times have we gone on vacation or somewhere away, have an amazing time only to return home wishing we were back? I don’t know about you but it has happened to me countless times. Why does this phenomenon occur in our lives and what does it mean? When we are in a different place, there’s something about being away from our environment that shifts us.  New and different stimuli catches our attention…we have a different routine…we may be away from people and things that create stress in our lives…we feel different. Our essence embraces this because it brings us happiness and joy. We are more relaxed and we attract more of what and who we are because of this shift. There is exhilaration in our being and of course, what happens? We want more of that. At some point, we return home from our trip and we feel a letdown. There is sadness and anxiety because we go back to the way our life was before we left which was not giving us the joy and happiness we felt while we were away.

Going through divorce or trying to move on afterwards can you leave feeling the same way. You decide to get away from it all hoping things would be different and while you’re away it may seem like it does. Then when we get back, we are disheartened, disillusioned and even more stressed than when we left. We had hoped a change in scenery would right our ship and upon returning it feels like it’s sinking even more.  Confucius said “No matter where you go – there you are” and it is so true. We have this belief that going somewhere else or changing our environment will cure all the ills in our life. Now there is something to be said for having a fresh start and sometimes in a different locale.  But the fact of the matter is no matter where we go, we are still who we are. Nothing changes about our essence and what our truth is.  What can change however is how we see our life. Sometimes a change in scenery gives us an opportunity to focus on our truth…what we long for. If we are not happy in our life, this is a symptom of not tapping into our Inner Truth…that place within us that knows and sees our ultimate perfection…that we are whole and complete exactly as we are. When we find ourselves in another place and take in the newness or the change of where we were, we allow our heart to open to the possibilities in our life. We focus on that which brings us joy and not on what does not. By doing so, our heart expands even more to allow more of that which is who we are. This seems to change when we leave this different location and return home.

So how can we sustain this euphoria? By tapping into the same place that was activated while we were away…our Inner Truth. Remember what brought you such bliss when you were away whatever that might be…the beauty of nature…the excitement of a new routine…the support of new friends…the realization of a new awareness. All of this is stays with you when you are home or away. When you have experienced that which fills you up is a reinforcement of what you already possess inside you. You can tap into these feelings..this awareness of yourself anytime…anyplace. Wherever you go, there you are…There is no place you are not. What is exciting about this is you can have the experiences you had while you were away at home just by shifting into that place within you that was activated by being away. No matter how you are living life right now, you can make the choice to be in that place that feels good. Just remember the times that brought you great happiness…remember how that felt. That is who you are…that is what you are all about…waiting for you to experience over and over and over again. Go ahead and try it!
!n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

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If not You, Who?…If not Now, When?

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I had the amazing opportunity to gather with 400 of the most incredible visionaries from around the world for four days last week. To say it was the most life changing experience of my life would be a huge understatement. The lessons I learned were transformational and I came away feeling truly blessed. There was a calling that could not be ignored…a wake-up call…a call to action to live my life with more purpose and meaning although that is what I thought I was living.

Hillel the Elder, Jewish rabbi of Babylonian origin, living at Jerusalem in the time of King Herodis, is the author of the saying “If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am ‘I’? And if not now, then when?”. The inner inquiry is profound as a general question for all of to ponder. What is the purpose of life?  Who will be called to live that life with meaning? When will a life of purpose and meaning be lived?
The question “If not you, who?…if not now, when?” rang loud and clear as I connected and went deeper at this gathering. It became not only clear what my purpose was but also what was I waiting for. There was an urgency never there before that grabbed me thrusting me into action. I committed to more integrity in my life and saying no more to any beliefs or obstacles that get in the way of living and speaking my truth. It felt exhilarating to say the least as I began a more definitive and meaningful journey.
Many of my clients recovering from their experience with divorce are confronted with questions of what’s next in their life and how to live with more purpose and meaning.  It’s a scary yet freeing place to be. Although these questions may have never been asked before, being able to start fresh with a clean slate can be quite exciting. The path from divorce need not be painful or be insufferable. There are options and solutions that will help heal the pain and be the guidance to transforming your life to one of purpose and meaning. What I know for sure is you are a magnificent being perfect, whole and complete with all the answers you need. All it takes is that first step and someone to walk right alongside you.

If not You, Who?…If not Now, When?  !n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

Are Your Feelings Checked at the Door?

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I’m sure all of us are familiar with the cliché about checking our ego at the door. It means before we enter a place of truth or going within to leave anything unlike who we really are behind so as not to interfere with that introspection.

What sometimes happens is that we also leave our feelings at the door as well. In going introspective, this can be vulnerable and quite scary. Part of us wants go deeper and may not understand the power of allowing our feelings to speak its truth…the voice of who we really are. In traveling down that road, its easy to be very heady about it and leave our feelings at the door.

This happens so frequently with those going through and healing from a divorce. It may not have been safe to know our feelings much less trust and feel them. Because of these experiences, going within is not natural and exploring our feelings even more challenging. This is a time to look at who you are and where you are in your life. It is an opportunity to write a new chapter in your book instead of reliving a sequel that didn’t work the first time around.

I invite you to take the next step in moving on from your divorce. All it takes is a willingness to check in on your feelings and not check them at the door. Just being willing to be willing is a huge first step. When you open the door to the next stage of your life, your feelings can come with you and show you the way to have the life you desire and the love you deserve. What you can leave at the door is a way of thinking that no longer serves you…don’t worry…there is no use for these thoughts anymore.
Now go out and live the life you were meant to live!  !n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

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Change is in the air

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As I sit outside overlooking the ocean in our new surroundings, I realize how change is an amazing opportunity about how we both look at and see life. Moving to a new area means getting used to new and different rituals and routines. It can be exciting and frightening as we navigate through the process.

I noticed my anxiety level rising as I felt the changes going through my body. My initial reaction was to go to the fear and it became overwhelming. When I became aware of where I was going, I took a walk on the beach and noticed there was an excavation. At first I groaned as it took away from its beauty and didn’t look so nice. I realized though the work was to bring more sand to the beach that eroded over time. So, although it didn’t look great now, it was part of a change that would ultimately benefit the beach for everyone to !njoy.

Life is very much this way when it comes to change. It is always for the good of all including ourselves if we can understand and accept that it may not always look or feel good in the beginning. I came back from my walk with a refreshed look at change knowing its ultimate result. I was given an amazing opportunity to embrace change of a new area looking for the good in its essence.

Going through and moving on from divorce is very similar when it comes to change. It can bring up many different feelings which can be challenging to deal with. Having experienced divorce personally there were many changes that were both debilitating and transformational.

I invite you to embrace these changes and accept this as part of your divorce journey. When you allow change on your journey, you take another step to “divorce your divorce” and move on to heal your pain to have the life you desire and ultimately the love you deserve.

!n-joy my friends!  Namaste

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.

The Search is Over

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When people are contemplating or actually in the midst of a divorce, it is very common for them to feel lost. The world they once knew and was comfortable with has now been sent into a spiral with no end in sight. Both men and women experience this differently however the common denominator is the search for something certain, a sense of calmness amidst the storm crashing through the end of their marriage, a feeling of control over the outcome and the future which seems so unreachable.

I have attached a great article about an actual collaborative divorce in the Tampa Bay area of Florida. The couple’s testimonial about the process was so overwhelmingly positive, they have remained friends. This real life story accentuates the positives using the Collaborative Process as an alternative to traditional divorce litigation. The process usually takes no more than a few months instead of potentially years, the cost is a fraction of the fees incurred going to court and the benefit of a kinder, gentler divorce especially with children is priceless.

Instead of always reaching, be open to the world of possibilities with Collaborative Divorce. Please call my office to find out more about how to divorce with dignity and understanding with a process that is easy. What you see is real and will last forever, the search is over.

This process works, this process is for you, this is Collaborative Divorce!
In-Joy the theme appropriate song and lyrics accompaniment!

Anthony J. Diaz is an experienced family law attorney focusing on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. His offices are located at 2431 Aloma Ave Suite #124, Winter Park, FL. 32792 and 3720 Suntree Blvd., Suite 103G, Melbourne, FL. 32940.

You may contact Anthony Diaz by calling 407-212-7807 or by email an*****@************aw.com or visit anthonydiazlaw.com for more information.

And if you found this article helpful, please leave us a review HERE.